Managing Inbound Requests

How to gracefully handle a high volume of intro requests.

The Triage System

When you achieve a certain level of visibility, your inbox becomes a public commons. Managing this without burning relationships requires a systematic approach rather than ad-hoc replies.

The Wrong Way

  • Replying "I'll see what I can do" and forgetting.
  • Blindly forwarding requests without context.
  • Ignoring them completely (damages long-term reputation).

The Protocol Way

  • Mandate a forwardable blurb for every ask.
  • Batch process intro requests on Friday afternoons.
  • Use explicit double opt-in for 100% of outbound forwards.

Volume vs. Capacity Matrix

Requester Tier Default Action SLA
Tier 1 (Close network, High trust) Immediate double opt-in request to target 24 hours
Tier 2 (Acquaintances, Vendors) Request forwardable blurb (creates friction) 72 hours
Tier 3 (Cold outbound) Polite decline template or ignore None

FAQ

Should I use an EA for this? Only if they strictly follow the double opt-in protocol. Assistants who aggressively push for meetings often burn the principal's social capital.